* Crimea parliament votes to join Russia, referendum March 16
* Putin says "differences" with U.S. remain after call with Obama
* Obama says referendum would violate international law
* EU warns Russia of sanctions if no negotiated solution
* OSCE military monitors barred from entering Crimea
By Alissa de Carbonnel and Luke Baker
SIMFEROPOL, Ukraine/BRUSSELS, March 6 (Reuters) - Crimea's parliament voted on Thursday to join Russia, and its Moscow-backed government set a referendum in 10 days, in a dramatic escalation of the crisis over the Ukrainian region that drew a sharp riposte from U.S. President Barack Obama.
Obama ordered sanctions on those responsible for Moscow's military intervention in Ukraine, including bans on travel to the United States and freezing of their U.S. assets.
He echoed European Union leaders and the pro-Western government in Ukraine in declaring that the proposed referendum would violate international law.
Obama also held a one-hour call on Thursday with Russian President Vladimir Putin, their second phone conversation in six days, and urged him to accept the terms of a potential diplomatic solution to the crisis.
Putin said afterwards that Russia and the United States were still far apart over the crisis. In a statement released by the Kremlin early on Friday, the Russian leader said Kiev's new authorities had imposed "absolutely illegitimate decisions on the eastern, southeastern and Crimea regions".
"Russia cannot ignore calls for help in this matter and it acts accordingly, in full compliance with the international law," Putin added.
The sudden acceleration of moves to bring Crimea, which has an ethnic Russian majority and has effectively been seized by Russian forces, formally under Moscow's rule came as EU leaders held an emergency summit, groping for ways to pressure Russia to back down and accept mediation.
The EU condemned Russian actions in Crimea as illegal, voiced support for Ukraine's territorial integrity but took only minor steps suspending talks with Moscow on visas and a new investment pact while warning of tougher steps if there is no negotiated solution within a short period.
In a signal to Moscow, Obama announced plans to punish Russians and Ukrainians involved in what he called "threatening the sovereignty and territorial integrity of Ukraine". A U.S. official said Putin was not on the list of those to be sanctioned.
"The proposed referendum on the future of Crimea would violate the Ukrainian constitution and violate international law," Obama told reporters at the White House. "Any discussion about the future of Ukraine must include the legitimate government of Ukraine."
After talks in Rome, U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry said Russian Foreign Minister Sergei Lavrov was personally delivering proposals to Putin to end the crisis in Ukraine.
"We have agreed to stay in close touch in order to see if there is a way forward to try to get to a negotiating table to get the parties necessary to be able to stabilize this," Kerry said.
Kerry said the executive order signed by Obama on Thursday provided a legal framework for imposing sanctions but also left open the door for dialogue.
The White House said Obama emphasized to Putin in the call on Thursday that Russia's incursion into Ukraine was a violation of Ukraine's sovereignty.
Obama outlined the terms of a diplomatic "off-ramp" that U.S. officials are promoting, in which Russia would pull back troops to bases in Crimea, allow in international monitors to ensure the rights of ethnic Russians are respected and consent to direct talks with Ukraine officials.
Obama also spoke to Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe and agreed that Russia's actions were "a threat to international peace and security", the White House said. Tokyo said in a statement that Abe had given his support to Obama's efforts to resolve the crisis in the 40-minute phone call.
The crisis has put Japan in a tight diplomatic spot, as it seeks to balance support for its key ally the United States with a recent push to improve ties with Russia driven by a need to increase energy imports to replace lost nuclear power.
The Pentagon announced a large-scale air force exercise in Poland that Washington's ambassador to Warsaw said had been augmented to reassure U.S. allies in the region in the light of the Ukraine crisis.
The U.S. House of Representatives overwhelmingly passed a bill backing loan guarantees for the new government in Kiev. The U.S. Senate is expected to consider a similar bill backing $1 billion in loan guarantees next week.
The crisis began in November when Ukraine's then-president, Viktor Yanukovich, under Russian pressure, turned his back on a trade deal with the EU and accepted a $15 billion bailout from Moscow. That prompted three months of street protests leading to the overthrow of Yanukovich on Feb. 22.
Moscow denounced the events as an illegitimate coup and refused to recognise the new Ukrainian authorities.
The Crimean parliament voted overwhelmingly on Thursday "to enter into the Russian Federation with the rights of a subject of the Russian Federation".
The decision, which diplomats said could not have been made without Putin's approval, raised the stakes in the most serious East-West confrontation since the end of the Cold War.
The vice premier of Crimea, home to Russia's Black Sea Fleet in Sevastopol, said a referendum on the status would take place on March 16. All state property would be "nationalised", the Russian rouble adopted and Ukrainian troops treated as occupiers and forced to surrender or leave, he said.
Russian stocks fell and the rouble weakened further after the referendum news. Moody's ratings agency said the standoff was negative for Russia's sovereign creditworthiness.
On the ground, a mission of 35 unarmed military observers from the pan-European Organisation for Security and Cooperation in Europe was stopped from entering Crimea by unidentified men in military fatigues when they travelled from the port of Odessa, Poland's defence minister said.
In Brussels, European Council President Herman Van Rompuy outlined a three-stage plan to try to resolve the crisis, while announcing the EU would sign the political parts of a far- reaching agreement with Ukraine before May 25 elections there, and offer the country extensive aid and trade benefits.
Unless Moscow opens negotiations with Ukraine and an international "contact group" soon, the EU would move to travel bans and asset freezes on Russian officials, and boycott a planned June Group of Eight summit in the Olympic venue Sochi.
If Russia took action that destabilised Ukraine further, there would be "grave consequences" for bilateral economic ties, he said, without giving any deadlines. Poland's prime minister said the EU talks on sanctions had been "stormy", hinting at frustration at his inability to achieve stronger measures, which require a unanimous decision by all 28 member states.
The centre-right European People's Party, a grouping that includes a dozen heads of state and government in the European Union, is set to declare on Friday that Ukraine may apply for EU membership, according to a draft statement seen by Reuters. .
Putin has cited threats to Russian citizens to justify military action in Ukraine, as he did in Georgia in 2008. Far from seeking a diplomatic way out of the present crisis, Putin appears to have chosen to create facts on the ground before the West can agree on more than token action against him.
Ukrainian Prime Minister Arseny Yatseniuk said after meeting EU leaders that Ukraine's armed forces would act if Russian military intervention escalated any further into Ukrainian territory. "We are ready to protect our country," he said.
Military experts say Kiev's small and underequipped forces are no match for Moscow's superpower might.
As expected, the EU summit was unwilling to adopt more than symbolic measures against Russia, Europe's biggest gas supplier, because neither industrial powerhouse Germany nor financial centre Britain is keen to trigger a trade war.
France has a deal to sell warships to Russia that it is so far not prepared to cancel, London's banks have profited from facilitating Russian investment, and German companies have $22 billion invested in Russia.
The European Commission has announced aid of up to 11 billion euros ($15 billion) for Ukraine over the next couple of years provided it reaches a deal with the International Monetary Fund, entailing painful reforms like ending gas subsidies.
European Central Bank chief Mario Draghi said the crisis had already had a major impact on the Russian and Ukrainian economies, but little effect so far on the euro zone.